Buchanan Family Foundation

Christian Relationship Counseling

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Why Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) ?

Buchanan Family Foundation desires to support the relational health of marriages knowing that a strong, positive and loving relationship shared between husband and wife will enable the children and family to be healthier and more successful, which has consistently been demonstrated through various studies

Judeo-Christian theology is one of the biggest proponents for healthy relationships within marriages and families. These values are a part of the core tenets of Christianity, and provide a way for love to be restored. Unfortunately, communities of faith experience barriers to access evidenced based treatments that specifically address the negative outcomes of emotional detachment.

Therefore, we knew that if the goal of Buchanan Family Foundation was to reach the underserved to offer relationship counseling,  we had to use EFT because it marries so well with a Judeo-Christian worldview. It was for this reason, that we purposed in our hearts to provide therapy services that promote and preserve relationships that are safe and secure as the Good Lord intended us all to experience from the very beginning.

What does a therapist do in EFT?

Implementing EFT is an approach that will result in helping clients focus on how they experience their relationships emotionally. 

Your therapist's role in couple therapy will be to identify the system of the whole relationship, its patterns and how you and your partner get stuck in negative patterns.  Your therapist will help change the negative patterns into clearer signals of need and better interpret the core message the pair of you have been trying to communicate and understand all along.

Your therapist will constantly be creating safety in the session to create more positive bonding patterns that result in increased emotional security and closeness. By focusing on the present experiences in session, your therapist will help bring about change and new moments of bonding by:

  • Reflecting the present process of negative relational patterns within and between you and your partner
  • Exploring the emotion hidden under the negative relational patterns to clarify the true primary emotion
  • Encouraging expression of the clarified message and new emotions of need between you and your partner
  • Promoting safety and success through processing and debriefing about the new experiences
  • Validating and integrating the new successes of therapy into the relational patterns of your relationship

Your therapist's role in individual therapy will be to help:

  • Increase awareness of your body's physiological cues (dissociation, body pain and discomfort) that send a signal to you of emotional distress or the perception of an emotional threat
  • Identify barriers to learn from emotional wounding that may cause you to feel paralyzed, stuck, or cause you to stuff, deny and fragment feelings when in relational conflict with others or experiencing mixed feelings about a relationship.
  • Develop the ability to take action and move forward from emotional wounding with a stronger sense of self, healthy dependence and self-motivation
  • Increase acceptance of yourself as lovable, in the same manner that God finds you lovable.
  • Increase a healthy and reasonable view of others that are in fact, trustworthy and safe